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Friday, March 30, 2012

Confession as Evangelism

Recently, I had a conversation with a friend, and was encouraging her to grow closer to God. I was telling her about how passionately Jesus wants an intimate relationship with her – not just for them to be comfortable around each other.

My friend finally asked a question that seems to have been burning in her mind through many previous conversations: “When you say all these things… how can you be so certain? How is your faith so strong?”

Whoa.

I realized in that moment just how falsely I had been portraying myself all along – perhaps through our entire friendship.  I begged her forgiveness.

Plain and simple, I am not that certain. I suspect I may also speak for others who are seen as “strong Christians” by their communities. Though I had been exhorting my friend fervently, I am not without my own doubts. In fact, part of why I speak the truths I know so boldly is that my own mouth needs to confess and be saved, my own heart needs to hear and be reassured.

There are some strong philosophical evidences for Christianity, which can satisfy at an academic level. And most of the time I am fairly convinced that the gospel is true, but at its core in my heart, my faith is merely this: the gospel is the most beautiful story I have ever heard or ever will hear, and it requires my all. I do not know for certain that it is true.  But the more I come to know God, the more strongly I believe that there is no one else worth giving my life to. And beyond that, I realize more and more how desperately I need God. So I give him my all and accept the risks.

As I told my friend, when I say that Jesus longs for an intimate relationship with his people, it’s not that I somehow have this unattainable faith and I’m 100% certain. It’s just that I’m betting my life on it.

I am convinced that this confession of my own falseness and my own doubts was infinitely more helpful to her than any reassurances I could have given.



In home group this week, I re-encountered a constantly reoccurring theme in the arena of evangelism (and, I am convinced, discipleship): modern Westerners have no concept of their own sin, and thus, their need of a savior. The goodness of the Good News is contingent on understanding the bad news of the fall, which non-Christians have little incentive to study and Christians themselves may question (particularly those who grew up in the church). I recently heard that a funeral singer was asked to sing Amazing Grace, but not to sing “a wretch like me,” since after all, the deceased had been a nice person.

Many condemn “the angry god of the old testament” because they see no need for his punishment. They have no understanding of the nature of the relationship between creation and Creator, nor of the gravity of our offenses against him. Without such an understanding, they see God as vindictive, controlling, and immature. Yet any careful study of human nature surely concludes that human beings are corrupt. How many times have I heard complaints against corrupt politicians? Or cynical assumptions that societal self-interest will prevent the changes we all claim to long for? And here in Cambodia, with fewer incentives for people to act honestly, it’s common knowledge that the extent of corruption is almost without limit.

Do we truly believe that a society of blameless people would end up this way? Surely not! I suppose we could shun free will, blame imperfect systems, and consider people innocent of committing crimes that the system incentivizes. But then… who created the imperfect system?

And if humanity as a whole is guilty, it follows that you and I are individually guilty, whether we seem like nice people or not. When I stop and meditate on God’s nature and remember my place in relation to him, my hidden guilt (perhaps much of it not-so-hidden to others) is overwhelming, save for Christ’s assurance. Perhaps our (and certainly Satan’s) reason for preserving the perpetual commotion of our lives that drowns out such introspection.



So if the West is in great need of truthful introspection (I say the West because I don’t know enough about the rest of the world), what are we going to do about it? I know from experience that it’s no good listening to a sermon and thinking, “gee, I wish what’s-her-face were here to hear this,” because the Spirit convicts me that the reason I, and not what’s-her-face, am sitting in the pew is that I’m the one who needs to hear the sermon. If we truly want to meet this need for introspection, we will start (however painfully) with ourselves.

Once we understand our own desperate need for the mercy of God because of our sins (and here I overstep the bounds I just set in the paragraph above by telling you this before I dare to practice it myself), I propose (I know this is really new and radical) that we actually confess these sins, and ask for forgiveness from those that we offend, especially non-Christians.

For so long, Christians – no, I myself – have caused or let themselves be seen as holier than average. To prove that we are Christians, we hide our sins. I confess I am an expert at avoiding obvious sins and indulging in hidden ones. This causes other people to hide their sins around me, too. And it becomes a vicious cycle. Have we forgotten that the saintlier we truly become, the better we understand the truth, and the more clearly we see just how far we have fallen from God’s holiness?

What if instead, Christians were seen as particularly willing to confess our own faults and ask for forgiveness? How much more would that open doors and hearts for others (unbelievers and fellow believers) to see their need for a savior?

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